I am a minority woman who was infected with AIDS by my husband, also my abuser, at 21 years of age. I chose to become a single parent, with two baby girls, who were not infected. I remember being very sick mentally, physically, and emotionally behind the abuse.

Today I am a new woman with goals and dreams. I no longer accept abuse in my life. I know I am worthy of love, respect, and support. I now choose to have people around me that will bring these qualities into my life.

I now live in Phoenix, Arizona and have remarried. My spouse, who is not infected, is a man who is kind, loving, and understanding. I have never known these attributes but I know I am worthy of them.

I also chose a career to help women, like myself, so they can make better choices in their lives. It’s important to let them know that they still have a life…even after HIV.

When life isn’t working the way you’d like, look at the situation as an opportunity on the road to your success. Follow any negative by taking a look at your B.A.G.

B is for Blessings. Remind yourself of the things you are grateful for like life itself, your health, family, friends, career.

A is for accomplishments. Focus on the many things you have done and many things you do daily that you are proud of.

G is for Goals. Review your dreams and plans for the future often. This is the fuel that will motivate you. See yourself as already having what you seek.

Always view any negative as part of one performance, not as a turndown of the performer.

Name: Lorraine

Birth date: February, 1986

HIV Diagnosis: Unknown